Kinky sex is intense. And fun. But, I don’t think many people stop to examine how, or why, it works.
It resembles the storytelling and theatre of a magic trick, including some requirement of suspension of disbelief. The language of kinky sex uses metaphors and shorthand.
The metaphor thing is pervasive. Traditionally in magic is built on the idea “like unto like”. And this carries to kinky headspace. People dressed as slaves are treated as slaves. Floggings are treated as though they are serious. rope bondage is assumed to be secure, often without being tested.
There’s a sense of wonder at the end of the magic trick. The payoff of kinky sex is a feeling of profound sexuality, an intensity of orgasm, or a feeling of belonging.
This type of subterfuge for a special result is also the basis of computer hacking; determining and exploiting the assumptions, simplifications, metaphors and proxies. With unexpected inputs yielding unexpected outputs.
It’s almost like magic.
